Everyday Jeremy and I wake up in our bed of roses, hop on our magical engagement pony and fly through pink, fluffy clouds to the top of the Tetons where we play in fields of flowers with the fairies. Then we get out of bed, make breakfast, plan our wedding and go to work. Just kidding! Only Jeremy goes to work. I stay home and play with Maiden - who has leukemia. Boo :(
But in all seriousness, the first month we've spent as an engaged couple has probably been the most stressful month of our relationship. Now that I've got my heart set on a ring, Jeremy's been working double to try to pay for it, and I've had a lot more time alone to reflect on my decision to move out here. Jeremy and I agreed that we'd try to keep this post positive, so I'm trying my best not to complain and appreciate this as a learning experience.
Through the stress, tears, screams and silences, I think we've learned a few things about life in love. We have learned that life can't be a compromise it always has to be an agreement; that we have to love ourselves to love each other; that having independence is what brings us closer together; and that if one person isn't happy, it just doesn't work - no matter what.
In hindsight, I probably shouldn't have moved to Jackson. At the time I was trying to convince myself that I could be different and learn to love a lifestyle I had never lived. Why is this always the hardest lesson to learn? You simply can't change people. Not even yourself. But I'm going to stick it out. I am determined to find a way to be happy here because Jeremy and I deserve to be happy.
I do have many things to look forward to: road-trip to Colorado, a weekend in Vegas, Thanksgiving in Arizona, Christmas with Mel & Mike, and hopefully some other visitors into snowshoeing and skiing the bunny hill.
So there you have it: Life after Engagement. Maybe not Cloud 9, but guess what? I'm still madly in love.
Moving anywhere is tough but its so brave to do something different and even if after some time you decide its not for you, at least you tried. But from someone who has moved to lots of different places, getting used to a place (even the best city in the world!) takes at least 1 year. Give yourself some time. And congratulations!
ReplyDeleteTo my sweet kids out there in Wyoming... yes, it's tough to move somewhere unfamiliar. I've done it many times and it never gets easier. I agree with Brandy that it does take anywhere from 6 months to a year to acclimate to your new surroundings. So make the best of your time out there, and soon you'll be moving on to other adventures and places. You're lives together will take you on many journeys. This is only one small fraction of forever... Remember always that you're there for love's sake and become that love. Wear love everyday and make happiness your constant companion. I'm excited for you both and love being part of your lives. Thanks!
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